While many people try to avoid putting themselves in situations where they would be in an emotionally vulnerable position, Hal Shorey says taking that step can lead to amazing rewards, writes Elizabeth Bernstein for The Wall Street Journal.
According to Shorey, a psychologist and associate professor for Widener University’s Institute for Graduate Clinical Psychology, being vulnerable with someone establishes intimacy and trust. That, in turn, creates a shared emotional experience that can forge a strong bond. However, putting yourself out there can also cause less pleasant emotions, such as fear and anxiety.
When we do take the plunge, it’s usually followed by feelings of immediate regret over our emotional exposure. This is called a vulnerability hangover, but there are ways to deal with it.
One of them is to practice intentional vulnerability. This will ensure that you have anticipated the reaction of others and the emotional hits it can cause.
“Be mindful of what you want to happen and the impact on other people and yourself,” said Shorey.
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